Topic: What It Means To Take Charge

In a medical survey, the researchers found 15 to 20% of patients were exceptional and made an effort to take charge every day. Unfortunately, 75 to 80% did not make any effort to take charge every day. In most adversities we are plunged into a darkness stripping away our dignity. We lose contact with who we are, what we are, what we believe, and the ways we relate to the world in more normal times. In adversity, we must not go along and let ourselves be led, pushed, pulled, or jerked by the circumstances.

●1. Refuse to play the victim and be beaten. See yourself as having some power and some choice.

●2. Educate yourself about yourself, about your condition or your circumstances, about growing up in emotional maturity, and about growing out in emotional maturity.

●3. Become a specialist in your own adversity, know everything about your adversity.

●4. Challenge the wisdom and expertise of the experts, doctors, and counselors.

●5. Become a participant rather than a passive victim, and do not be willing to sit back and let others and/or circumstances run your life.

●6. Demand dignity from yourself, refuse to quit, and refuse to let the adversity touch you or determine how you deal with the adversity.

●7. Demand personhood from yourself

●8. In the darkness you get very, very lost. You cannot see your way out. In the darkness, there is no light at the end of your tunnel. In the darkness, you must demand things from yourself.

●9. You must demand the best heart from yourself. Then you will be better because of your adversity rather than being bitter.

●10. You must demand from yourself a response of forgiveness instead of wanting revenge or wanting to get even.

●11. You must demand your response to darkness be a soft kindness instead of hard and bitter anger or rage.

●12. You must demand control over your life regardless of the adversity. Demand control from within yourself.

●13. You can be in charge of some things but not necessarily all things. Being in charge is something we have to demand from ourselves. Being in charge of small things is the way we achieve control of large things. Really decide when you eat, how you eat, what you eat, what you wear, when you bathe, what you watch, and what you read. Avoid at all costs the hopeless and helpless ride of grief, pain, and anxiety we ride when we are in the darkness. Above all, look upward, outward, and onward.

●14. Do not try to take charge of others or their life. Let them live with their own problems.

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These words were posted at one of Shepherd's Care Ministries Sites called Wisdom Moment, The site is located at:
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